Is thinking about sex with someone other than your partner cheating? How often do women fantasize? What do we gals fantasize about? Does fantasizing about a someone of the same gender mean you’re gay?
While there are no universal answers to these questions, I promise you there is nothing shameful about fantasizing. Whatever tickles your Girl Boner and doesn’t hurt anyone (and fantasies generally don’t) is a-okay. Embracing your spicy daydreams, on the other hand, can bring mega rewards.
Last week I had lots of fun chatting with Kendra Sunderland, aka “The Library Girl.” The award-winning, weed-loving porn star and I explored her personal journey, her thoughts on slut-shaming, how she and her boyfriend navigate their open relationship and some of women’s top fantasies, including threesomes, sex with a stranger, domination and submission, sex with your partner and more!
Dr. Megan Fleming also shared awesome insight for a listener who has recently taken on erotica reading, much to her Girl Boner’s delight! In doing so, however, she discovered that buzzkill known as guilt. *insert droopy Girl Boner emoji*
Whether you fantasize often or infrequently, want to learn more about the role the mind can play in female sexual pleasure or get ideas to explore on your own or with a partner, this episode is for you!
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August,
Enjoyed the cast very much. I had to agree with most everything said. I have a stand on “50 Shades” because of my ties with the BDSM community. Around here, and many other places, the movie and the book are not thought very highly of. I didn’t care for much of it. Both were the same reasons: The young woman in the book was in love and the gentleman (lol) was a strong sadistic man who took advantage of her. The contract part was overdone and not done well, according to me. She and he needed to sit down and he should explain all the things well as she did not understand some of the terms and things.
Going to the fantasizing portion of your cast, I come from a non-talking family when it came to sex. I found out just a little from family about sex and had to rely on outside sources to teach me. These were often unreliable and, sometimes, a bit dangerous. I was naive, thankfully I am not anymore. Fantasizing is wonderful. When I first had my stroke, my imagination was stunted. It tore me up more that I might never fantasize again than it did that I could not walk well. The imagination came back and I was so relieved. I, personally, place fantasizing and porn in the same category. I see porn as nothing more than fantasies with visual stimuli in them. In my own opinion, the fantasizing and the pictures, and films do no harm as the woman on the screen is a fantasy. I am smart enough to know that anyone in a movie, magazine, cam show, or other porn thing are not really like that. She does not care for me, nor want me. It is a show, a game, something to excite me. That’s all. I wish the women I come into contact could see it that way. Most people in BDSM do. That’s one of the things I like about the lifestyle. People don’t get so hung up about fantasies. Wow! That was long. Think I will stop for now.