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5 Things a #GirlBoner Isn’t

January 9, 2016

As y’all know, I spend a lot of time exploring what Girl Boners are and why they matter. I discuss them here and on my show, in articles and at events and have even asked strangers in LA what they think a Girl Boner is. (For a recap of that adventure, listen to my first Girl Boner® Radio episode or watch this video.)

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Yes, I adore all-things-Girl Boners! Today I thought I’d clarify a few things a Girl Boner isn’t.

1. An invitation. As with all genders, being aroused doesn’t necessarily mean a gal wants or deems it wise to act on it sexually. If you want to know if a woman is turned on and sex-ready—a question I hear often—feel the situation out. Pay attention to her words and body language. When in doubt, ask her what’s she’s up for. Don’t assume.

*Related: check out this awesome video: Consent and Tea.

2. A flaw. Sexual shame is pretty universally common, but women are particularly prone to it for all sorts of reasons, from religious influences to societal messaging. And that shame hurts everyone. There is nothing shameful about your sexuality. 

3. Only, or mostly, for others. I hear routinely from women who were taught early on that sex is something we give men. What year is this again?

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Our sexuality is our own, first and foremost. If we decide to share it with another/others of any gender, great. If not, great.

4. Necessary. Yes, I LOVE Girl Boners with a passion—but I also realize that how often or intensely one experiences them has no bearing on her worth. If you’re asexual, for example, you’re just as valuable and embraceable as anyone else.

5. One-size-fits-all. Like our bodies, Girl Boners come in a whole range of—beautiful—shapes, sizes and styles. All folks experience turn-on uniquely, physically and emotionally. That is a seriously groovy thing.

Now THAT's better.
Now THAT’s better.

***Stay tuned for details about Embraceable‘s virtual release festivities, taking place the first week of February! ♥

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  1. veldabrotherton says

    January 9, 2016 at 9:07 am

    August, it has finally dawned on me that my female characters are definitely #girl boners and proud of it. I so enjoy your posts, though I don’t always take the time to comment. Loved this one being raised in a time when women were supposed to please men and that was that. It soon dawned on me that I was pretty pleased as well. Keep up the good work.

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    • August McLaughlin says

      January 9, 2016 at 10:05 am

      That means so much from you, Velda. Much gratitude for the support! I’m loving your characters in Beyond the Moon.

      Reply
  2. Kassandra Lamb says

    January 9, 2016 at 8:23 pm

    Love this! Especially that “goals and dreams are Satan’s way…” pic. LOL

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    • August McLaughlin says

      January 10, 2016 at 12:51 pm

      It’s a keeper pic, right?? So glad you enjoyed.

      Reply
  3. aurorajeanalexander says

    January 10, 2016 at 12:34 pm

    Here’s another great Girl Boner post, August!! I just simply love them!!

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    • August McLaughlin says

      January 10, 2016 at 12:54 pm

      So happy to hear that, AJ! ❤️

      Reply

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