Let’s take a little quiz, shall we? If you had to guess, which of the following ranks #1 when it comes to the most cherished Valentine’s Day gift for a partner:
A. Chocolates and roses
B. A romantic card
C. A couple’s massage
D. A candlelit dinner
E. Sexy lingerie (or appearing in it)
F. It depends on the person.
G. None of the above
*insert Jeopardy music*
Okay, take your best shot. The answer is….
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G. None of the above!
What your partner wants is probably what you most desire as well: to feel wanted and known.
For some folks, this means not celebrating the holiday at all. For others, it means that sexy, wanton eye-lock that leads to lip-lock that leads to Girl Boner-palooza. For pretty much everyone, it means respecting your partner and showing them you desire the heck out of them and their happiness.
Whether your goals involve sex, romance or both, anticipation, creativity and seduction can work like magic—not only on Valentine’s Day, but within your relationship as a whole. There is little, if anything, more powerful or arousing than feeling that your partner wants you. When you’re both in that space?
[Let’s all pause to savor our Girl Boners, just thinking about it…]
Take it from Laura Corn, who’s helped millions of couples master the above formula. Last week, I had the pleasure of interviewing the NYT best-selling author whose book that you “do,” rather than read, 101 Nights of Great Sex, features exercises in sealed envelopes—unless you buy the Kindle version— you and your partner can use to seduce each other. I completely see why it’s sold so many copies!
Listen to our chat on iTunes or below! The episode also features:
- Laura’s top advice for couples stuck in a rut
- Why you should never stop surprising your partner
- One of her favorite oral sex tips
- What she’d advise her younger self (who once hated sex)
- Dr. Megan Fleming‘s suggestions for a listener, who wishes she felt more desired by her husband
- More!
I would most likely guess it’s the chocolate and roses. But I know very well I might be surprised.
Well, if those gifts are what make a person feel wanted, then you’re right! That’s the main thing — feeling desired.
I can’t believe her story. I’m already a fan of libraries, but WOW!
Great interview, all of you. I think you touched on several topics that are all too real for many women and this helps give them options and things to try.