“I think it’s more important to be happy and confident than it is to be a certain size, a certain hair color, a certain bra size… Happiness is more important than a number.” — Kelly Shibari
This week on Girl Boner Radio, I had one of my most insightful interviews yet. Kelly Shibari, an award-winning adult film star and marketing pro recently made history as the first BBW (big, beautiful woman) to grace the cover of a Penthouse Magazine title. Raised in Japan and having always been a larger girl, Kelly never imagined that she’d one day gain professional esteem for her looks, performance artistry and sexy pizzazz in the U.S.—particularly in her mid-30s (practically “old” for a model/porn star). When a writers’ strike put a halt to her other film industry work in Los Angeles, a chance conversation brought light to a spicy new path she’s stuck to since. And has it ever paid off.
Kelly had fabulous things to say on the air about the adult industry, the varying attitudes about sexuality in Japan versus the states, how she’s cultivated a fulfilling personal off-camera life and what makes us all sexy—regardless of shape or size. I could’ve talked with her for hours! Lucky for us all, she was kind enough to answer a few more questions via email.
Read our Q&A and listen to our radio interview using the links below—you don’t want to miss Kelly’s awesomeness!
Girl Boner Radio After-Chat with Kelly Shibari
August: What’s your favorite way to chill out when you’re not working?
Kelly: Because most of my work involves dealing with the public – either marketing my stuff or my clients’ – my down time is usually spend hiding out—watching movies, traveling, staying by the pool… Basically anything that takes me away from my computer or phone! Though I find that my down time is usually in sporadic bursts rather than days at a time.
August: What’s one thing your fans would be surprised to learn about you?
Kelly: I have one superhero weakness: I never learned how to ride a bicycle. It’s particularly funny because the racial stereotype of Asians is that we all know how. I suppose if I were ever trapped on a planet with no means to travel except by cycling, I probably wouldn’t survive very long. ;)
And yes, that also means that whenever anyone says, “It’s just like riding a bike,” I look at them like they’re nuts. LOL!
August: What would a dream date with your guy involve?
Kelly: Sleeping in. Watching movies in bed. Cuddling. Then probably laying on a beach or by a pool while great music is playing and drinks are flowing. Oh, and a massage!
August: What quote inspires you?
Kelly: This Mother Theresa quote is right above my sink, and I read it every day as I brush my teeth. The other one is often in my head.
August: You mentioned loving sex toys. Do you have a favorite?
I absolutely am in love with the Shibari Wand HALO. Yes, it’s a company I work with, and I obviously love the name. But it really does work really, really well – both for longer play as well as quickie masturbation sessions! And it’s not necessarily a sex toy, but I love Wicked Sensual’s line of flavored lubes. With non-cloying flavors like Salted Caramel (seriously!!!), they’re absolutely amazing.
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To learn more about Kelly, connect with her on Twitter: @KellyShibari. You can also visit her explicit website, KellyShibariXXX.com.
What did you think of Kelly’s insight? How have you learned to embrace your body or sexuality? We’d love to hear from you!
I’m first again August What a refreshing lady Kelly is, she’s definitely in tune with her Self. It’s so sad that we are judged on our body style. I’m a young 63 and have realised that I don’t have to impress anybody. I think the opposite sex is attracted because of what you put out there: confidence, humour, self assurance. Although I’m happily married now, I used to suck the gut in near sweet young things. Then I realised that although I’m 19 on the inside I’m not on the outside. Just being me I find that some women actually want to talk to me, it’s crazy, it’s like finding the meaning of life on your second last breath on earth.
Well said, Laurie! We talked a lot about that on the show. I’m so glad being authentic and keeping your priorities in-check are paying off for you. There’s really nothing lovelier!
I try August. I’m probably a happier human being than I was years ago. Being a bit of a tart didn’t help me much I guess with age comes wisdom, or you just don’t get out enough. Whatever it is life is better.
Cheers
Laurie.
Reblogged this on The Burden of Empathy by James Jackson.
Our outer shell is not the most important topic. Our inner shell is. Housed in our inner shell is our heart, lungs, gut, intestines, pancreas, liver, kidneys, blood/blood vessels, brain and so much more; key organs that determine our health. Rather than focusing on our “outer appearance” we need to focus on the wellness and health of our inner appearance, the parts of us that no one can see. Therein is the miracle.
Very good points, Joan! And beautifully said. Physical wellness and emotional happiness trump aesthetics, always.
This was great to listen to August! I liked the energy so much. Very outgoing and – yes happy!
Aw. Thanks for the rockstar support, Raani!