Dance like nobody’s watching. I’m not sure who said this originally, but I love the message: Let go. Act crazy if you want to! Meanwhile, stop caring what other people think. Applied to our dreams and passions, the notion is pure magic. How about dreaming like nobody’s judging?
This week a dream I scarcely realized I had came into fruition, making me more grateful than ever for dreaming out loud. After appearing on Dr. Lisa Masterson’s radio show, Health in Heals, her reps phoned me, asking if I’d like to host a show of my own. Girl Boner Radio will kick off January 6th! I’m not sure I could be more excited. When I arrived at the recording studio for my first production meeting on Monday, I nearly cried. The place was decked out in sparkly decor as though my giddiness had materialized, and a grateful feeling of “You’re on the right track. Keep going,” struck me. The message on the wall, “…planet Earth is listening,” seemed to affirm it. When we share dreams, people listen. We never know where that may lead.
I thought back to just over a year ago when I launched my Girl Boner blog series. I wasn’t sure what would happen once I hit publish, but I knew something would. Something had to because my heart, brain and instincts were screaming at me to speak up, and when we act on our dreams, groovy things happen. If I’d kept my Girl Boner dreams bottled up (pun scrumptiousness!), they’d have stayed dormant, likely causing stress and regret. More importantly, if all of you fabulous readers hadn’t been receptive to my efforts, I’d likely have no radio show or other fun prospects to speak of. Thank you with all of my GB-loving heart. ♥
Since I’ve been swimming around in dream-think lately, a virtual gush-pile of WHOOPEE!, I thought I’d share facts I think we can all stand to be reminded of. After you take a glimpse, I hope you’ll share your own thoughts on dreams.
10 Facts About Dreams
1. They’re practical. For many folks, ‘dreamer’ conjures up images of whimsical fairy tales and spacey hippies with their eyes fixed toward the clouds while the “real world” tromps on. In reality, most dreams are goals that set our hearts aglow, make us stronger contributing members of society when we pursue them and make practical sense if we stop and think about it. (The question should always be, “Why not?”)
2. They come true if we let them. And by let them, I mean not stand in their way. It’s easy to talk ourselves out of seemingly lofty goals. If we don’t try, there’s no chance of failure. But that’s just sad. We all deserve better.
3. They vanish if we ignore them. Our dreams deserve the light of day and the chance to come true. If we don’t nurture our aspirations, they’re likely to shrivel up like plants I try to take care of. I nearly think of mine as offspring. I want what’s best for them and will do anything in my power to ensure their thriving.
4. They invite naysayers. We’ve all had others criticize our dreams. Such criticism often derives from insecurity, jealousy, misunderstanding or misguided concern for our wellbeing. (“But how will you pay the bills?” “What will people think of you?” “That sounds so hard!”) The very uniqueness that makes our dreams wondrous frequently prevents others from understanding; if ___ was common, would you strive for it? No, because dreams are extraordinary. We should use naysayers’ words fuel to work harder.
5. They invite collaboration. Dreams are team ventures, whether we conjure and manage them on our own or not. That’s one reason we need to open our hearts and mouths and let them roam free! When we dream out loud, others not only hear them but often step up to play a role.
6. They’re powerful! I agree with what Eleanor Roosevelt said, that “future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” When our dreams are alive and well, our worlds illuminate—a beautiful thing, because giddiness and gumption make for awesome fuel and brighten up others’ lives as well.
7. They are gifts to ourselves and others. If we squelch our desires, we limit joy for ourselves and others. Another favorite quote of mine derives from my favorite philosopher, Oprah: “There is no greater gift you can give or receive than to honor your calling. It’s why you were born. And how you become most truly alive.” So true, right? Withholding our dreams, on the other hand, arguably steals those gifts before they’re given.
8. They aren’t monetarily measurable. Money and a lack thereof seems to stand in the way of many people’s dream pursuits. While putting food on the table is vital, I think it’s important to remember that much of the most important work ever done doesn’t draw in money from the get-go. “Getting rich” isn’t an authentic dream, in my opinion. If we pursue our passions, riches of many kinds follow. If we fixate on money, we’re likely to turn into unhappy curmudgeons. (Think Scrooge.)
9. They can surface and evolve anytime. Dreams shouldn’t limited to our youth or postponed for impractical reasons. When we follow our instincts and passions, new dreams can flourish at any time; we don’t even have to know where we’re specifically headed, other than in the proper direction. If we fall down, we can stand back up and keep going. Many bumps and hiatuses evolve into turning points.
10. They’re celebration worthy! Simply having a dream is a gift—don’t you think? I recall a time when I had little sense of purpose. That apathy was worse than deep depression. If we’re blessed with ambition and a cause, we best cherish it. That means celebrating all along the way. Don’t wait to celebrate future accomplishments until you reach them; party now and perpetually.
What dreams are you working toward? Have any dreams or outcomes surprised you lately? Any points to add to my list? I always welcome your wonderful thoughts.