Do you believe in soulmates? Lots of folks do, apparently, and slightly more men than women, according to several studies.
I had a blast exploring all-things-soulmates with Marla Martenson on Girl Boner Radio last week. The professional matchmaker of over 15 years had a lot to say about finding “the one,” whether there actually is one person for every person seeking love, online dating dos and don’ts and more. (Hint: you could end up having multiple soulmates in your life, involving romance or not.)
How to Find Your Soulmate(s)—for real
When I asked Marla about the most important step anyone seeking a partner can take, she said:
You have to love yourself. It might sound cliche. . .but really if you think about what you’re looking for, you’re looking for someone pretty spectacular—so what are you bringing to the table? Are you happy? Do you like your own company or are you seeking someone else to make you happy or to fix’ things? You really have to take a look at your financial predicament, your health, your happiness, your vitality, your spirituality and take a look and think, ‘wow I’m a really great person. I love myself.’ And do things that you love every day.
If you’re going out there to try to meet someone, have the idea in your mind that you’re out to have a great experience and to have fun. Your vibration’s going to raise and when you’re out, people are going to say, ‘Who is she? Who is he? Wow, they’re just so happy. They sparkle.”
In doing so, said Marla, you’ll not only attract a potential partner but other relationships and opportunities. Your luck throughout your life will change. Having tried both the desperately-seeking-someone route and the living-my-life-fully/working-on-me option, I can attest to the power of the latter.
Stream our full chat on iTunes, iHeartRadio, Spotify or most anywhere you listen to podcasts! Just search for Girl Boner Radio.
The episode also features:
- Dr. Megan Fleming’s thoughts for a listener who’s newly divorced and tired of meeting men who namely desire casual sex
- Marla’s recollections of her journey to becoming a matchmaker
- Common mistakes people make while dating
- Online dating tips, including ways to enhance your profile
- How spiritual practices can influence your love life
- Sex and dating after divorce tips, from Dr. Megan and me
- More!
Goodies from Marla:
For magical minded people, join her private Facebook group: Love Yourself, Love Your Life
Get a FREE positive affirmation Ebook and self-love meditation here.
Check out Marla’s spiritual memoir, The Buddha Made Me Do It here.
Get a personalized message from Marla’s angel, Murth here.
Thanks for having me August, it was so much fun. xo
I totally agree with all this.
I’ve always had far better luck at meeting soul mates both friends and intimate relationships when I’ve put myself out into the world and said yes to the things that shake up my routine.
My hardest struggle was with opening up and allowing myself to meet and interact with strangers. It was always far easier to stay in watching TV and eat takeout.
Luckily in going out my comfort zone, I’ve found someone who enjoys doing that as much as me!