If the best gifts are the gifts that keep giving, why not work pleasure and orgasm into that mix?
I had so much fun chatting with Dr. Jill McDevitt about sex toys as gifts, the best ways to do so and more on Girl Boner Radio. The sex educator, sexual wellness coach and “unapologetic, feel-good activist on a mission to radically improve the way we think about and treat sexuality, ourselves, and each other” also weighed in on some of the latest hottest picks, including an anatomically correct toy that had everyone in the studio gasp, and how to best navigate intimacy and self-care through the hectic season. It’s no wonder she serves as CalExotics’ resident sexologist.
If you’re considering gifting a sex toy this season, Dr. Jill has some awesome suggestions.
“I’m a little biased, but I think it’s more often a good idea than not,” she told me. “I’ve given literally everyone in my life a vibrator at some point. At some point, everyone who knows me, grandmothers-in-law, friends, brothers and sisters…get a whole little gift package of toys and lube and the whole thing.”
Once you’re confident that such a gift is ideal, the way you give it may be just as important as the toy itself. When Dr. Jill gives a sensual gift, she goes for a “Have fun with this bag! wink-wink” approach.
“When you’re trying to be sex-positive, it’s about creating a normalcy of sex as healthy and normal,” she added. “So I don’t need to treat it like a big secret when the gift giving is happening…. Just be ‘have fun!’ and be normal. And then they’re going to show up at that space, and say, ‘Oh, okay!’”
I love that advice. And obviously have some shopping to do!
To learn much more from Dr. Jill, including when sex toys aren’t ideal gifts, stream the episode on iTunes, iHeartRadio, Spotify or below! The segment also features thoughts from Dr. Megan Fleming for a listener seeking sexy was to use FaceTime during long distance relationship stints. (And yes, toys can help there, too.)