Scars. We all have them. The line from stitches we had after a tussle as a kid, from having an organ removed, repaired or replaced, from a wound that took too long to heal. Invisible etches from abuse, losses or tragedies we’ve endured. Whether physical or emotional, all scars are precious.
We don’t forget hardships we’ve endured to “earn” scars—particularly the most painful—but they do become parts of us. To have a scar where a wound once was shows healing, growth and, in many cases, fierceness. And it’s perfectly okay if we haven’t reached that place just yet.
Last week, inspired by a question from a Girl Boner® listener, I chatted with my dear friend Elle. The author and breast cancer survivor shared beautiful insight on embracing our scars, and how her own journey has influenced her body image, relationships and more.
“In The Fall I have a line that says, ‘The deepest scars tell the greatest stories,’” she said, adding that the quote now hangs on her wall, in vinyl. “To me, it’s a testament of what true inner-strength feels like. We don’t always have it in all things, but when you can find those moments where you can look at those scars and find the warrior that you were through something, those are great moments.”
In the episode, which you can stream on iTunes or below, you’ll also hear:
- Ways underlying issues can affect body image
- The role passion can play in healing
- The importance of friends who lift you up
- Ways Elle and I deal with self-doubt
- Dr. Megan‘s thoughts for breast cancer survivors, struggling to embrace their scars
- Highlights from the Pasadena Women’s Rally, on Women’s March day