“She wins who calls herself beautiful and challenges the world to change to truly see her.” — Naomi Wolf, The Beauty Myth
This is one of my favorite quotes, and yesterday I interviewed someone who epitomizes it. Lauren Marie Fleming calls herself an “uppity love rebel,” who takes the guilty out of pleasure—and not only for herself.
After years of struggling to embrace her body, Lauren launched #BawdyLove, a movement to banish shame and fill life with decadence, delight and joy. (YUM.) Her book, Bawdy Love: 10 Steps to Profoundly Loving Your Body, explores the ten steps she herself used to cultivate empowerment and self-love. Through her writing, speaking and advocacy, she’s helped folks around the world silence their inner critics, connect with their authentic selves and feel comfortable and confident in their bodies. In a word, she’s bad-ass.
I was going share quotes from our interview in this post, but honestly, nearly everything she said was frame-and-hang-it keepable. I hope you’ll listen to the full chat, and enjoy it as much as I did.
A bit of what you’ll learn:
- How Lauren got off the compulsive dieting train (which for her, started at age seven)
- How losing her brother affected her body image and sexuality
- What Dr. Megan, Lauren and I had to say to a listener who’s struggling to regain her sex drive after sudden heartbreak
- The power of focusing on pleasure
- How money beliefs and behaviors play into all of this
- Why you may wanna start saying your fears out loud
- Lots more!
And get this. Lauren generously offered a gift for Girl Boner® listeners. Use the code girlboner to receive her Silencing Your Inner Critic program for a buck! That’s a $43 savings.
What steps have you taken to stop fixating on “the numbers,” and embrace your body as it is? How has grief or trauma affected your intimate life? I love hearing from you all.