One of my favorite things about Girl Boner® is the array of perspectives I get to hear and learn from. While I have plenty of
chaotic rollercoaster-y borderline traumatic, ahem, diverse experience in the dating realm, it’s not my area of professional expertise. The topic ties in so well with sexual empowerment and empowerment as a whole—particularly for those seeking relationships.
Last week Christina Weber joined me in the studio. The serial entrepreneur’s latest brainchild, Underground Unattached, offers select singles a unique way to connect with likeminded souls. (I’m not even single, and was all, OMG, that sounds so fun!)
So much struck me about our chat, but one thing really stood out. We explored some of the digital age has brought to dating-ville, including this stat:
57% say texting has made it more difficult to determine if a request to go out with someone is a date or not. – Statistic Brain
“Men will text, ‘Hey, wanna hang out?’ or ‘Wanna grab a cup of coffee?’ If two people are single, it’s obvious. It’s a date!” Christina said, adding that if there’s confusion, the woman in a guy/gal scenario should state it—namely because men tend to do more of the asking.
For example, if someone asks you to coffee, you could respond, “Sure, I’d love to have a coffee date.”
I immediately thought of the countless times I hung out with a straight, single man as a straight, single woman. Were some of those dates? Would they have been, had I decided so? I haven’t thought so, but surely there could have been confusion on the guy’s end I was unaware of.
Regardless, I loved the heart of Christina’s message, that communication and clarity are vital—which applies whether we’re dating someone new or in a longterm relationship. We shouldn’t be afraid to speak up or get answers when in doubt. If someone takes a request for clarity as reason to run the opposite direction, they probably aren’t an ideal partner.
So, what do you think? Can two singles hang out platonically? What did you think of Christina’s thoughts on common dating mistakes, or why we should add creativity to the mix? What about Dr. Megan’s feedback for a listener who doesn’t want kids, but her beau (now) does? I love hearing from you!