I imagine most cisgender women have occasionally felt fearful when alone in a public restroom. What if a creepy stalker slips in the room? What if my life turns Criminal Minds-ey while I’m sitting here vulnerable with my pants down?
Imagine feeling unsafe every time you used one, for myriad valid reasons.
As you’ve probably heard, Kansas lawmakers recently introduced a pair of bills that would keep transgender students from using restrooms that match their gender in public schools and universities statewide. Worst yet, anyone who saw someone transgender in the restroom could sue the school for $2,500. North Carolina also began pushing these “bathroom bills.”
Last week, I had the pleasure of chatting with Casey, a non-binary trans parent and blogger who lives in Boston with their 6-year-old, Roozle. I’ve adored Casey’s work and advocacy for some time, and fell harder for them when I spotted their new Instagram account: @wejustneedtopee.
I loved everything Casey had to say, particularly this, about their @wejustneedtopee campaign:
“…I wanted to encourage cis allies to go up to restaurants and ask them if they have a neutral bathroom for someone to use, for anyone to use. I want cis people to start using those bathrooms and thank business owners for having them, so that when I show up there, and I ask them if there’s a bathroom safe for me, they’ve already had that conversation. They don’t have to just have it with me, when I’m probably freaking out a little bit, and scared. That felt like the way to turn this around and get a little bit more support from cis allies and it was a way to focus that energy that I was feeling so horrible about.”
To listen to our full conversation, hop over to iTunes or Stitcher Radio, or click play below. The segment plays in the first 15 minutes.
What did you think of our chat? If you’re cisgendered, will you support trans people by asking about neutral bathrooms? As always, I welcome your respectful thoughts!
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