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4 Lessons #GirlBoner Has Taught Me So Far

April 26, 2017

Hi, friends!

As you may know if you follow me on social media, I recently signed a book deal with Amberjack Publishing, an incredible team I am so jazzed to be working with. (Major Girl Boner, obviously!)

I thought I’d celebrate blog-style today by sharing a few of the biggest lessons my GB journey has taught me so far. Thanks for being a precious part of it!

You don’t need to know the details before going for your dream.

I’m sure we’ve all held ourselves back at some point for fear of the unknown. Thankfully, Girl Boner® has been an exception for me.

I knew one thing when I launched it on my blog over 4 years ago: I had to talk about the term and all it stood for, preferably as widely and loudly as possible. Being a writer, I of course foresaw a book. But with no sexologist-type credentials, blogging with hopes of creating a platform seemed like a wise first step. I did, after all, have experience, and a near obsession with investigating the subject matter.

I called it a weekly series, having little clue as to what I’d write about next. I called it a movement, because it felt that powerful to me. But most of all, I called it a book. 

Little did I know how much my life would change when I published that first blog post. That it would be years before a spree of publishers, including the one I signed with, would take interest. Or how much growth in a multitude of directions I hadn’t imagined would take place in between. 

When we keep moving forward, staying open to possibilities without fixating on the particulars of our desires, life might just surprise us in crazy beautiful ways.

Some challenges mean you’re on the right path.

Granted, some challenges mean we’ve made bad or brash decisions or are dealing with a douche bag. But there’s a big difference between resistance that strengthens us and red-flag roadblocks.

Nearly every guest I’ve interviewed on Girl Boner® Radio who has cultivated empowerment did so against marked odds. The trafficking survivor who became an esteemed actress; the Olympian turned mental health advocate who was diagnosed with bipolar disorder after being outed as a high-end escort; the holistic healer who went from an abusive childhood to becoming an empowered transgender woman and practitioner. 

Even on a smaller level, this holds true. Securing my trademark turned out to be a lengthy battle, for the very reasons such a term matters. *cough cough, sexism* My tame artwork was considered “too vulgar” for some platforms, because of the context (women’s sexuality). An entire writers’ conference had to find a new location because I and Velda Brotherton were slated as speakers. I learned quickly that even the most frustrating cases were also affirmations.

Sometimes meeting resistance means we’re  onto something that matters.

It’s up to us to kick the door down.

(And trust me, there are countless more supporters, than naysayers, who want to cheer you on.  They will follow you right in, and throw a “WE DID IT!” party.)

Gloria Steinem was right.

She’s spot on about countless things, this included: The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off.

This activist battle cry, frequently attributed to the feminist icon, summarizes my personal Girl Boner to a tee! My husband used to say I was “getting the fire” as my eyes bulged, seconds before my voice crescendoed and I started stomping around the house, peeved about some sort of societal injustice or damaging myth. Now all of that serves as fuel. (And everyone around here now sleeps better! Whew. ;))

Gloria Steinem, Sarah Jones and I at the United State of Women summit in DC, shortly after discussing Clitorings!
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Rainbows follow storms, if we hang in there.

Here’s something I seldom say about anything, much less an entire year. Last year rather sucked for me. While there were blessings, as all dark times seem to have (and dang, are they important then), it was one of the most personally trying years I’ve ever had.

Then the election happened.

Please join me in a moment of silence.

Okay, one more.

The other details of my suck-year aren’t important, but here’s what is: Working through the hardship strengthened me. I got through it, came out largely unscathed and not once did I back down from Girl Boner. In many ways, it was my saving grace.

I don’t believe horrible things have to happen for joy to follow, or that all hardships, especially tragedies, bring rewards. But I do think we can give meaning and purpose to the struggles in how we react to them. We can do our best, take care of ourselves, remain kind to others and never, ever give up.

Two years from the day my trademark became official, I received my book deal memo. Thank you FB memories! And thank you, Universe.

 

What have your dream projects taught you? Would you like to see more Girl Boner journey-type posts in the coming months? I LOVE hearing from you.

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  1. Jennifer says

    April 26, 2017 at 6:55 am

    Felicidades and congratulations!

    Reply
    • August McLaughlin says

      April 26, 2017 at 8:04 am

      Thanks, Jennifer! Means a lot from you!

      Reply
  2. Laura Probert says

    April 26, 2017 at 7:26 am

    I’m so proud of you and so excited for you! Congratulations Goddess!!!

    Reply
    • August McLaughlin says

      April 26, 2017 at 8:05 am

      Oh, thanks, Laura! Your enthusiasm and support = rockstar golden.

      Reply
  3. Mike Sirota says

    April 26, 2017 at 7:38 am

    GOTB, I am SO proud of you!

    Reply
    • August McLaughlin says

      April 26, 2017 at 8:05 am

      Thanks, EHL! I can’t tell you how much I appreciate your support.

      Reply
  4. Kathleen M. Rodgers says

    April 26, 2017 at 9:00 am

    August,

    I’m so proud of you and excited for you about your book deal! Way to go. You are a trailblazer.

    Write On! and Right On!

    Reply
    • August McLaughlin says

      April 26, 2017 at 4:19 pm

      Thanks so much, Kathleen. I so appreciate your support!

      Reply
  5. Rayne Parvis says

    April 26, 2017 at 10:05 am

    Love your story August and thank you for inspiring us all!

    Reply
    • August McLaughlin says

      April 26, 2017 at 4:18 pm

      Thank you, love!

      Reply
  6. Inion N. Mathair says

    April 27, 2017 at 11:29 pm

    Truly inspirational, August. Mathair and I are so proud of you. We remember coming by your page for the first time not that long ago. I told Mathair then that you were a force to be reckoned with and your banner of female empowerment was going to reach great heights. Keep trucking and never lose that passion. It’s what sets you apart and makes you one of the greats. Have a great weekend.

    Reply
  7. Aurora Jean Alexander says

    May 1, 2017 at 8:24 am

    You rock, August!! Congratulations. I’m so happy celebrating with you!! This is amazing!

    Reply
    • August McLaughlin says

      May 2, 2017 at 3:36 pm

      Thanks so much, AJ! ?

      Reply

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